The Reason These 6 Wedding Traditions Exist Is So Out Of Touch
Have you ever wondered what the meaning is behind common wedding traditions?
For example, why does my dad have to walk me down the aisle and deliver me to my husband, like I am some kind of property being transferred from one man to another?
What do people think will happen if I get out of the arms of a man for one second? Sprint and run off into the sunset and finally be free?
That actually sounds kind of nice.
And why, historically, does the brides family pay for the wedding? And whats the deal with wedding rings?
Before I got married (OK, just kidding, literally no one has asked me), I decided to do some research on wedding traditions.
And I found that most of them were actually pretty out of touch.
1. Why Do We Wear Rings?
Did you know that wedding rings have actually been around since Ancient Egypt?
The purpose and symbolism of the ring has changed through time. In Egypt, the shape of a ring a circle (duh) meant eternity. To give a ring to a woman was to pledge your undying and everlasting love forher.
Eventually, though, the meaning behind rings changed when they got to the Romans and entered Christian ceremonies. Although still a symbol of love, they also were used to claim a bride.
And why do we wear them on our ring finger?
Well, because it was believed that there was a vein in theleft hand the vein of love that stretched from the ring finger directly to theheart. However, that is not factually true, as no such vein exists. But at least now you have a cool location to put your bling.
2. Why Do Women Wear A White Wedding Dress?
Believe it or not, white wedding dresses are actually a pretty new thing. Before the19th century, brides would actually wear a bunch of other colors, especially red, because it symbolized fertility. (, much?)
Bustle reports that this rhyme can be found in a 19th century Farmers Almanac:
But in 1840, Queen Victoria decided to break the mold by wearing white to her wedding to Prince Albert.She started a trend that spread all throughout Europe, and eventually America, and we continue to wear white wedding dresses today.
, its also believed that brides wear white for a more obvious reason to symbolize their chastity, virginity, and purity for their future husband.
3. Why Does The Father Walk TheBrideDown The Aisle?
Well, exactly why you think he does.
Historically, the father owns his daughter until he gives her away to her husband, who now owns her.
Additionally, in the past, most marriages were arranged and the wife was seen as well, property. It was an exchange of goods and services. So the husband might give his new father-in-law some cows or a plot of land in exchange for his bride to be.
Therefore, the bridesfather would walk her down the aisle and present his son-in-law with his side of the exchange his wife.
4. Why Do We Have Bridesmaids?
Well, this makes sense.
The Romans had bridesmaids and groomsmen because they were incredibly superstitious and afraid of evil spirits.
They had a group of men and women surround the bride and groom, dressed similarly to them, in order to confuse any demons and make sure that the wedding ceremony went smoothly. That is how bridesmaids came to be.
This actually feels like the plot for a horror movie.
5. Why Do Brides Wear A Veil?
According to Bustle, one reasons brides traditionally woreveils was so that they are weighed down and cannot run away.
Additionally, when the husband lifts his new wifes veil, it symbolically indicates the taking of her virginity and the breaking of her hymen.
What if every time a guy helped me take off my coat, it symbolically indicated that he was having sex with me?
6. Why Do We Eat Wedding Cake?
Wedding cakes have been around since medieval times. However, originally, instead of cake, it was actually bread.
The groom, after eating a bite of the bread, would then break the rest of the loaf over his wifes head to symbolize fertility (and, apparently, the breaking of her hymen.)
So if youre planning a wedding, are you going to keep these out-of-touch traditions, or do you think the meaning has changed enough over time, despite their lets say sexist beginnings? Let me know in the comments.